Valentine’s Day is the perfect day for narcissists. At least, it’s the perfect opportunity for the narcissist who has placed you on a pedestal to drown you in sweet words and gifts because you are so special.
For those of us who are no longer special, it is a day best ignored.
Three years ago, I celebrated Valentine’s Day with my ex husband. It was the first time that we’d spent this holiday together in nearly twenty years. Of course, he showered me with presents. Jewelry, flowers, card and an art project. He made me a mobile out of paper hearts and sweet love quotes which matched a mobile I’d made for him when I was nineteen and he was twenty. I was floored that he’d remembered this.
It’s in the drawer I’ve stuffed all the presents and junk from him which I wasn’t able to throw out.
Poor me, at age 40, not knowing that it’s actions which make love real and not words, lovemaking, gifts and poetic gestures.
Well, now I know. Once you’ve spent Valentine’s Day being idealized by a narcissist, it’s unlikely that, once he’s dumped you, the holiday will ever be enjoyable again.
I’m going to drop by the art store & pick up a canvas to work on a painting I’ve been thinking of, which has nothing to do with love.
Nothing at all.
Hope all my single and/or brokenhearted friends make it through the day without a tear.