Almost everything in this blog has been written with a slant assuming that the psychopath or narcissist in your life is male. However, I do get quite a few hits on this blog about female psychopaths/ASPD, and so I thought I’d speak to that topic today.
Statistics vary depending upon your source, but it’s safe to say that around 4% of the adult population has Anti Social Personality Disorder (ASPD). That percentage can be broken down into 3% male and 1% female.
So, the reason most article and blogs are about psychopathic men and not women, is due to these statistics.
Remember, that not all people with ASPD are psychopaths. Although the term Anti Social Personality Disorder has replaced the term Pschopathy in the DSM-IV (Diagnostic Manual, psychopathy is generally considered a subset of ASPD. So, of the 4% of the population with ASPD, a fraction of those actually are true psychopaths.
So, how can you tell if a woman (or man) in your life could have Anti Social Personality Disorder? (ASPD)
“The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, fourth edition (DSM IV-TR), defines antisocial personality disorder (in Axis II Cluster B) as:
- A) There is a pervasive pattern of disregard for and violation of the rights of others occurring since age 15 years, as indicated by three or more of the following:
- failure to conform to social norms with respect to lawful behaviors as indicated by repeatedly performing acts that are grounds for arrest;
- deception, as indicated by repeatedly lying, use of aliases, or conning others for personal profit or pleasure;
- impulsiveness or failure to plan ahead;
- irritability and aggressiveness, as indicated by repeated physical fights or assaults;
- reckless disregard for safety of self or others;
- consistent irresponsibility, as indicated by repeated failure to sustain consistent work behavior or honor financial obligations;
- lack of remorse, as indicated by being indifferent to or rationalizing having hurt, mistreated, or stolen from another;
- B) The individual is at least age 18 years.
- C) There is evidence of conduct disorder with onset before age 15 years.
- D) The occurrence of antisocial behavior is not exclusively during the course of schizophrenia or a manic episode.” (Credit to Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antisocial_personality_disorder
- Obviously women with Anti Social Personality Disorder pose as much of a potential threat when encountered in an intimate relationship as men, regardless if the relationship is female to male or female to female. The same types of threats are present including stalking type behavior, pathological lying, manipulation, deception, criminality, lack of remorse, using lovers as objects, cruel treatment, etc.
- Of course, it is important to remember that women and men with ASPD probably all have traits of narcissism. It is generally agreed that all ASPD/Psychopaths are narcissistic, but that not all narcissists have ASPD/Psychopathy.Narcissistic traits in a woman or man would include the tendency to put a new lover on a pedestal for the first few months of a relationship, and then lose interest in them, and eventually, dump them quite suddenly. Once you are dumped by a narcissistic woman or man, you will never forget the feeling of being discarded, like a piece of trash. It has been almost eighteen months since this happened to me and there are still days when the pain is sharp and fresh.
- Many times, a narcissistic woman or man will dump you because they have found a new lover to take your place, as, in common with psychopaths, they have a constant need for new excitements, along with a unsatiable urge to satisfy new desires as quickly as can be accomplished. Narcissists are also polished pathological liars who will weave a web of fantasy for you to believe in to cover up their deceits until they are ready to drop you in the compost heap.
- Never forget that Psychopaths and ASPD individuals often have serious addictions problems. They can be addicted to sex, drugs, alcohol, or more than likely, all of the above.
- At any rate, all women and men with these type of personality disorders (referred to clinically as “Cluster B Personality Types”) aren’t capable of long-term loving committed relationships for a number of reasons. First and foremost, they find commitment boring. These men and women are seeking thrills and pleasures. If you have survived a relationship with one of them, you will feel like a sexual object which has been used. Towards the end of my relationship with a narcissistic man with ASPD, I had the strangest feeling of not knowing what was going on in bed with him. The sex was intense and frequent, as it always had been, but I felt that his consciousness was drifting away from mine. Still, the amount of sex we were having convinced me that everything was fine. When I realized that he’d already established a full-blown intimate relationship with another woman and was planning to dump me, I could not get over how eagerly he had enjoyed my body those last couple of months. He was like a greedy child wanting to get all of the cookies he could before I found out what was going on and took the plate away.
- It is really such a terrible feeling to be used like that. It takes a very long time to recover from the dark and miserable feelings which arise after you realize that the one person whom you loved and trusted more than anyone else, the one whom you shared your secrets with and planned to spend the rest of your life with, has betrayed you without so much as a second thought and has strung you along for the ride until he or she dumps you.
- Get the Cluster B People Out of Your Life! (Psychopaths, Narcissists, Sociopaths…) (phoenixsphere.wordpress.com)
- You Can’t “Fix” a Psychopath (phoenixsphere.wordpress.com)
- Survival Of A Psychopath(With Borderline Tendencies…Abuse Of Power Results In Guilt For Whom?) (phoenixsphere.com)
- Personality Disorders – Psychopath vs Sociopath (lifebegins45.wordpress.com)
- Twin Study of Antisocial Personality Disorder (brainposts.blogspot.com)
- Grieving the Person You Thought You Loved (phoenixsphere.wordpress.com)
- Brain Imaging in Antisocial Personality: I (brainposts.blogspot.com)
- The dark path to antisocial personality disorder (medicalxpress.com)
- Sociopathy (psychopathresistance.wordpress.com)
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- The Narcissistic Ex, Part II (psychologytoday.com)
- Psychopathic duo (eastsidebigotry.wordpress.com)
- Psychopath “code of ethics” (psychopathresistance.wordpress.com)
- Being Manipulated By A Pro … The Narcissist (nakiafleming.wordpress.com)
- Long-held myths about psychopaths busted (news.bioscholar.com)
- The Disconnection of Psychopaths (neurocritic.blogspot.com)