One of the cool features on Word Press blogs is the very detailed ‘Site Stats’ which will tell you which search engine terms your readers used to find your blog. Yesterday, someone arrived upon this blog after googling “When a Psychopath Asks for Forgiveness.”
While I am not an expert in psychopathy, I suggest that anyone seeking information about healing from a relationship with a psychopath should visit Claudia Moscovici’s blog Psychopathy Awareness: http://psychopathyawareness.wordpress.com/.
In addition, you may wish to visit this book list: The Best Books to Understand and Recover From a Psychopath: http://www.flashlightworthybooks.com/Best-Books-Understand-Recover-Psychopath/413
I don’t have any personal experience with psychopaths. My ex husband has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and Anti Social Personality Disorder (ASPD). Psychopathy is generally considered a subset of ASPD, so they share many similar behavioral traits. A key difference is that psychopaths may kill you while people with ASPD will probably not.
However, ASPD and Psychopathy share similar traits such as superficial charm, lack of remorse, pathological lying and using lovers as playthings. In this context, I can say from personal experience that forgiving my ex husband was one of the worst moves of my life as it allowed him to come back into my life and create mass damage and destruction. I don’t know what the half lifeof his damage to my life will be
It has been over twenty-five years since he first entered my life and eighteen months since he exited it and the damage meter is still running.
So, in my unprofessional and very personal opinion, no. Don’t forgive the psychopath if it means letting him back into your life again. Anyone with a Cluster B type personality disorder such as narcissism, psychopathy, sociopathy, etc, will only as for your forgiveness if he is intending to use your forgiveness in order to manipulate you.
Remember that if he has lied to you before, then he will lie to you again. If he has cheated on you before, then he will cheat on you again. If he has hurt you before, then he will hurt you again.
Protect yourself. Protect your children.
- Two Great Blogs on Healing from Narcissism/ASPD Relationships (phoenixsphere.wordpress.com)
- Psychopaths are Inconsistent and Contradictory (phoenixsphere.wordpress.com)
- You Can’t “Fix” a Psychopath (phoenixsphere.com)
- Survival Of A Psychopath(With Borderline Tendencies…Abuse Of Power Results In Guilt For Whom?) (phoenixsphere.com)
- “Fried Green tomatoes…” (lifebegins45.wordpress.com)
- Introduction (psychofreezone.wordpress.com)
- I invite male victims of Psychological abuse, to join in this blog… (lifebegins45.wordpress.com)
- Survivor Of A Psychopath(With Borderline Tendencies…Winning, Losing Or Choosing To Live) (sorceressofthedark.wordpress.com)
- Positivity: The Key to Success (lifebegins45.wordpress.com)
- Getting Over the Psychopath: Cultivating Indifference (phoenixsphere.wordpress.com)