It has been a long time since I have written about my experience of recovery after a relationship with a narcissist.
My last entry of May 19, 2013 is, ‘What I Lost‘. After I wrote this post, which details hitting the bottom of my loss, something interesting began to happen to me. I transcended the experience and all the chaff fell away from me. In retrospect, it felt as if the proverbial scales fell from my eyes. Once reaching the bottom, and taking inventory of the emotional toll, I was able to rebuild.
This man, who had dominated many years of my adult life, has ceased to matter. I saw that his love for me had been a fraud from the beginning, and so the loss of it no longer mattered.
Instead of feeling that I’d lost my true love, I recognize that I lost precious time and energy. The relationship also cost me a great deal of money.
The silver lining in the ending of this relationship was that I live one hundred miles away from this man. I have been able to keep my promise to myself in this regard. I urge all my readers struggling after the breakup of a relationship with a narcissist, sociopath, etc., to practice the fine art of “No-Contact”. It is the best and fastest way to heal from a relationship a person who lacks empathy.
- Are You in a Relationship With a Narcissist? (dangerouslee.biz)
- Phoenix Rising Receives Narcissist Slayer Award (phoenixsphere.com)
- The Concise Dictionary of Narcissists and Sociopaths (kimberlyharding.wordpress.com)
- How do you know you are with a Narcissist? (bondsnbinds.wordpress.com)
- How to Spot a Narcissist (phoenixsphere.com)
- What We Can Learn About Our Own Lives From Celebrity Narcissism (huffingtonpost.com)