Phoenix Rising Awarded “Most Influential Blogger” for 2013


Madeline Scribes has nominated Ixchel at Phoenix Rising for The Most Influential Blogger Award of 2013. Thank you so much for the honor!!

The rules of this award are:

Display the award logo on your blog.
Link back to the person who nominated you.
Answer eleven questions.
Nominate (no limit on the number of nominations) other bloggers for this award and link back to them.
Notify those bloggers of the nomination and the award requirements.

The eleven questions are:

1. What makes you happiest?

A. Being at the ocean.

2. Do you love the Oceans or Mountains more?

A. Ocean.

3. What has been a special moment in 2013?

A. Swimming at the magical pool with Vladimir the life guard.

4. What is your favorite quote?

A.“Be who you are and say what you mean. Because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” Dr. Seuss

5. Do you like yourself?

A. Yes. How can you get through life without liking yourself?

6. Do you stay till midnight on New Year?

A. No. I like to go to bed by 10:00 p.m.

7. Something you wish could be done ASAP?

A. End Global Warming.

8. What was your favorite class when still at school?

A. English and Art.

9. What musical instrument have you tried to play?

A. Piano, trombone, guitar, flute, banjo.

10. Anything you had wished to have learned earlier?

A. That there are some people it’s better to avoid.

11. Do you like to do Crafts, Drawing or Painting?

A. Oil Painting.

My nominees are:

Paulette 1969:


The Project by Judy:

Fall Risk:


The Void Behind the Narcissist’s Mask

Leather mask created by J.C. Velasquez

Leather mask created by J.C. Velasquez (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

You may have read that every narcissist, psychopath and other Cluster B type individuals wear a mask to hide the emptiness of his or her true self.

Speaking from my own experience, I believe this to be true.

One of the hardest parts about separating yourself emotionally from the narcissist, sociopath or psychopath in your life is comprehending, on a deep or soul level, that he  is not the person with whom you fell in love. That persona is a fantasy mask created by the Cluster B-type individual in order to ‘catch’ you.

The next step is to understand that your lover, or former lover, purposefully played the part of the mask by supplying you with an intricate web of lies which may span years of your life. It turned out that my ex had two secret lives he was keeping from me; he had another girlfriend as well as a host of illegal activities.

Finally, and it may take months or even a year or two, you will come to realize that there is nothing to miss about the person behind the mask because everything that he is beneath his layer of lies is either devoid of any meaning, foul, disreputable, or all of the above.

Today, I celebrate reaching the end of any semblance of ‘missing’ him. When I think of him now, all I can remember are the bad parts, which were the last couple times we saw each other. He was rude to me, rude to my friends, and an overall jerk.

Instead of missing what I falsely perceived to be his good side, I am glad to be rid of him and his negative characteristic.

I can now describe him in the following terms:

Selfish, irresponsible, thoughtless, disrespectful, sexually exploitative, immature, a toady, a pathological liar, cruel, manipulative, deceitful, self-serving, shallow, cowardly, perverted, alcoholic, druggie, criminal, degenerate, unkind, loathsome, irreverent, despicable.

May you all journey closer to the point where you can see clearly into the void behind your deceiver’s mask.